Sliding in The dm, is it worth a shot?

Its been a minute but Im back for another juicy blog post "Sliding into the DM, is it worth it?

With online dating growing and becoming the new norm, especially since this Pandemic everyone world has been flipped upside down and relationships and dating has become even harder than before.

Now were sitting at home evaluating everyone that has crossed are paths wondering and questioning how will we ever go back to what dating was before Corona. I've seen an increase in men and woman really questioning what they want or facing fear of possibly being alone and now one of our only lifelines is Social media and possibly finding the love of our lives by taking a shot and sliding into our crush's dm.

How many times have you found yourself crushing on someone online and thought of every way to get into their dm's? Rather they are a A-list celebrity who may never even see your message or just a regular individual you felt you can connect with outside of the web?

Sometimes it can seem a little far fetched but Im hear to tell you to shoot your shot, but know the boundaries and research on them before coming off as a creep or really showing your shot knowing he/she is way out of your league.

So for those who have been in space land, sliding in someones dm is slang for sending someone a direct message on social media, usually for a hookup or sometimes a forever. But rather it one or the other all know we got to start somewhere, right?

Are You Ready To Slide In Their DM?

Before you write that sexy thoughtful message that took you a whole week to think of or sending a list of compliments to the woman/man of your dreams there are a few things you should make sure you ask yourself.

First off, make sure the individual you're gong after is single. Its not only rude and disrespectful but it will be a waste of time to attempt to message someone who clearly is taken. You would come of as a creep or home wrecker which will lead you back to square one or getting your feelings completely crushed because you failed today attention.

Obviously you have been eyeing this person for quite some time but failing to research and verify where they are in life clearly shows you don't care and likely just shooting over your shot to see whose net your balls can fall into.

Secondly, if Social Media is going to be your go to, make sure you have mutual friends or followers in common, unless you're on a dating site like Christian Mingles, Tinder or an Adult site, which than you'll have to do something BIG to separate you from the rest. Assuring you are not a bot or creep showing familiarity in some areas are a must.

And never be afraid of there Social Status, rather 1m followers or 1k 95% of people are glued to their phone so one way or another there see your message.

Once you have established a plan you're ready for the next step.

So Whats Next After Research?

Well, I don't have precise answers, however I can tell you what I like and don't and what I have tried to get that special persons attention. Like the saying goes " First Impressions are what attracts or pushes away someone, so make sure you're ready to bring your A game and conversation.

Please note: Sending a million DM's, Unwanted pictures and one word Hi's are not going to cut it. You have to pay attention and find that moment where the door is open for a response.

Lets discuss the DO's AND DONT'S Of SLIDING IN THE DM

1. MAKE SURE YOUR PROFILE IS PUBLIC AND HAS A CLEAN IMAGE. NO ONE IS GOING TO RESPOND TO A BLANK PROFILE WITH 0 POST BUT FOLOWING A THOUSAND PEOPLE. IF YOU DID CATCH THEIR ATTENTION WITH YOUR WORDS YOUR INACTIVE PROFILE JUST KILLED THAT. THERES ALSO ALOT OF SCAMMERS SO BEING ACTIVE IS IMPORTANT, NO ONE WANT TO ASK "WHO SENT YOU?'

2. MAKE SURE YOU ARE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE. POSTING PICTURES OF GUNS MONEY WILL ATTRACT SOME, BUT A GROWN WOMAN/MAN WILL NOT BE ATTRACTED TO THAT. WE WANT TO SEE WHAT YOU'RE DOING, WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU LIKE AND DISLIKE. DONT CAP ITS TOO MUCH OF THAT, AND EVENTUALLY IF YOU DO CAP IM SURE THE END RESULT WONT BE SATISFYING. BECAUSE LIKE ME ILL SCROLL THROUGH EVERY POST AND ASK QUESTIONS. SO BE YOU!

3. WAIT TO RESPOND TO HIS/HER POSTS. MEANING WAIT UNTIL SHE SHARES A POST OR INSTA STORY. SHE MAY POST HER FAVORITE FLOWER ONE DAY AND YOU CAN OFFER A FUN FACT ABOUT THEM AND HE MIGHT POST SHOES ALOT, SO POINT OUT SOME OF YOUR FAVORITES OR SHARE SHOPS THAT HAVE GREAT SHOES, NOW THAT CREATES A NATURAL CONVERSATION STARTER.

IN OTHER WORDS,

GO AFTER YOUR QUALIFIED CRUSH, BE AUTHENTIC AND TRANSPARENT, SHOW INTEREST, SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM THE HUNDREDS OTHERS THAT MAY BE IN THE SAME BOAT YOU ARE

IF THERE IS NO RESPONSE OR YOU'RE LEFT ON READ TRY TO MOVE ON BEFORE SHE/HE BLOCKS YOU OR REPORTS YOU FOR COMING OFF LIKE A CREEP. LOOK FOR SIGNS LIKE EMOJIS AND EXCLAMATION POINTS OR SMILEY FACES. ANYTHING ELSE IS MOST LIKELY A SIGN OF NOT INTERESTED.

IF HE/SHE DOES SHOW INTEREST, THE NEXT BIG STEP IS GETTING FROM THE DM TO TEXT/CALL.THATS THE HARDEST PART AND GOING ABOUT IT THE RIGHT WAY IS IMPORTANT. NEVER ASK FOR THE NUMBER. IF HE/SHE WANTED TO SHARE IT RIGHT AWAY THEY WOULDVE. FROM MY EXPERIENCE I WOULD LEAVE MY NUMBER AND THAT WAY ITS THEIR CHOICE TO USE IT OR NOT.

PLEASE DONT GO CHASING SOMETHING THAT YOU KNOW IS NOT THERE, LIFE IS SHORT SO REMEMBER YOU AND YOUR TIME IS PRECIOUS ASWELL!

AND PLEASE DON'T COME OFF RUDE IF SHE/HE ANWSERS AND RESPONDS 'NO', AFTER RESPONDING TO YOUR MESSAGE. NOTHING WAS PROMISED WHEN YOU SLID IN THE DM'S SO EXIT RESPECTFULLY.

SO GO SLIDE IN THAT DM AND SHOW THEM WHAT YOU GOT, GOOD LUCK!

WRITTEN BY:

NOVE

JANUARY 19, 2021